"A busy schedule isn't an excuse to let a relationship fail.
When a relationship is special, we find ways to be there."
-Cosmopolitan Magazine, 10 things guys wish you knew, March 2010
When a relationship is special, we find ways to be there."
-Cosmopolitan Magazine, 10 things guys wish you knew, March 2010
I just read this last night before bed and it shocked my heart. This is exactly the reason my ex and I broke up last September. I know, I know it was 5 months ago, but this BF and I were together almost 2 years, were on and off for 7 years, and were great friends for 8 years. We met in high school, through a mutual friend. I was a bubbly cheerleader and he was a football player. We dated, then life happened, he moved away for school, I moved away for school. During college, we talked on the phone constantly. I always felt that our relationship wasn't finished during those times. When I moved back after graduation, our relationship moved along full speed ahead, until it hit a snag.
He found a new love, the gym and a second job. I dealt with becoming 4th best, and did all I could to be with him, to make him find the time. I would drive him to his second job in the city so he didn't have to leave his house earlier to find parking, and I would pick him up around 3am when work was through, even when I had work the next day at 10am. I even joined he worked out at so I could guarantee some face time. (I despise gyms!) By Mid August 2009, I was tired of living my life for him, for putting myself out there for him, and for missing out on time with my girlfriends so I would be available when he finally called. I felt so lonesome, angry, sad, and taken advantage of that I just couldn't handle it. He grew tired of my nagging to spend time together. We eventually broke-up "mutually" right before a Mexico trip with my girlfriends. Now 5 months later, we still see each other, he still talks to my friends, he helps out my family with any car issue they have, and he still calls every once in a while to say hi. He even added me as a friend on his newly created facebook (but not until after he added all my besties). He also calls for reasons not suitable for a blog, and I give in, because in my diluted thinking I think this will help him realize that he wants to be with me.
This is why these two sentences, these 22 little words, gave me a shock of sadness. This was the exact reason we broke up and should be reason enough for me to move on. Moving on is hard, but I need to be strong and carry on. I'm busy too, I work two jobs and go to school. I hope when he realizes that he wants to take our relationship off pause (his words), that I will have already pressed play, maybe with someone else or maybe with myself as a confident single woman!
He found a new love, the gym and a second job. I dealt with becoming 4th best, and did all I could to be with him, to make him find the time. I would drive him to his second job in the city so he didn't have to leave his house earlier to find parking, and I would pick him up around 3am when work was through, even when I had work the next day at 10am. I even joined he worked out at so I could guarantee some face time. (I despise gyms!) By Mid August 2009, I was tired of living my life for him, for putting myself out there for him, and for missing out on time with my girlfriends so I would be available when he finally called. I felt so lonesome, angry, sad, and taken advantage of that I just couldn't handle it. He grew tired of my nagging to spend time together. We eventually broke-up "mutually" right before a Mexico trip with my girlfriends. Now 5 months later, we still see each other, he still talks to my friends, he helps out my family with any car issue they have, and he still calls every once in a while to say hi. He even added me as a friend on his newly created facebook (but not until after he added all my besties). He also calls for reasons not suitable for a blog, and I give in, because in my diluted thinking I think this will help him realize that he wants to be with me.
This is why these two sentences, these 22 little words, gave me a shock of sadness. This was the exact reason we broke up and should be reason enough for me to move on. Moving on is hard, but I need to be strong and carry on. I'm busy too, I work two jobs and go to school. I hope when he realizes that he wants to take our relationship off pause (his words), that I will have already pressed play, maybe with someone else or maybe with myself as a confident single woman!
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